My Soul Says

The announcement of divorce from billionaire couple Bill and Melinda Gates left everyone surprised. While it is their personal affair and no one has right to interfere into same. However, they are public figure having influence over millions of followers across the world, hence, it is imperative to analyse the impact of their decision on the society.

Though Bill and Melinda have been successful in keeping low profile in public domain, particularly on social media, still they are role model for millennial generation around the world. Hence this decision could affect their iconic image too.

Many people got shocked to hear this news. And their first reaction was, how this is possible? How such a nice couple can divorce after 27 years of long marriage? and that too after raising 3 teenager kids?

The reason behind their divorce remains a mystery, but in some of their earlier media interviews, Melinda was seen raising red flag through her cursory mention about Bill’s distress in balancing work and family. 

But, work-life stress is the by-product of today’s lifestyle. And people followed Bill in many ways, more particularly as a family man, who was seen so attached to his kids, inspite of having engaged in so many activities.

More often corporate employees who reel under work-family anxieties were given examples of Bill. In HR trainings on emotional skills, there were sessions on how to cope-up with work stress and maintain work-life balance. Bill’s life was a prominent case study.  

Bill was considered legend, not only because he is super successful in building his fortune from scratch, but also because of his family-man image. People identified bill’s image as a doting father and a caring husband.

Good family is a foundation to maintain harmony in social fabric. Particularly in the corporate world, when prominent couples like Jeff Bezos-Mackenzie got separated, bill was seen a great inspiration in the society for promoting family value to the next generation.

Bill’s family is seen as an ideal family with happy husband, content wife and joyful kids. No one would have imagined even in dream that there will be split in this heaven, owing to work-life imbalances.  

Nowadays everyone goes through some or other stress in their life. However, this should not be the reason for any break up. Because, couple in true love never dump each other; in whatever conditions they may be.

At times, lack of trust, differences of opinions, unusual habits of partner, inability of sexual performance or lack of reproductive abilities becomes the reasons for failure in relationships. However, people in genuine love, will not just separate for any of such silly reasons.

Usually, couples when enter into relationship without any leaning towards each other, see break-ups, owing to lack of balance in their relationship. So, whatever justifications they may give to public, when they break-up, they miss true bond in their relationship.

Bill and Melinda too released their statement mentioning that “We continue to share a belief in our mission and will continue our work together at the foundations, but we no longer believe we can grow together as a couple in this next phase of our lives”.

Their statement exhibits their personal aspirations overcoming their love. No doubt every individual has unique identity and it should be protected and respected. However, love is unconditional. It is the bliss by god. Identities melts into bond, when love is pure. People in love never think about overpowering each other.

Hence when the duo states that “After a great deal of thought and a lot of work on our relationship, we have made the decision to end our marriage”, it shows that they have spent enough time thinking many things, like where they fell short or long. Or how they are different?

But, one thing as an outsider, we can notice that, they may have missed to give a thought on how it all started? Why they came together? How they remained together for so long? How they cared for each other? How they loved each other?. Though nothing was existing in them, there was still something that brought them together.

Love is not always explicitly expressed. At times it is invisible and seen through action of a person. Not all people are extrovert, who out-rightly speak truth. Lot of people do not even know how to express their love for someone. So love and care are not something, which are shown. But they are something which you feel from inside.

Two persons, when come together to form a family, which is a divine bond, it is implied that they both may have some similarities as well as dissimilarities. It is not necessary that they must be in love for each other. But when they come together and develop leaning for each other, the process of love starts.

Love is not a one-time affair, which you just express by giving some gifts and forget thereafter. But. it is a perpetual belief and devotion for each other. It has to be enduring with deep reliance and patience. It should be like our relation to god. Because, we know god do exist, though we have not seen him. Still, we believe and devote ourselves to god.

Notably some couples are exceptions. You will see them fighting over some unreconcilable differences in their thought-process. But when there comes question about something common in them, they bury their differences and get together. Often such common cause are life goals or mission. But more particular cause become children.

Such couple exhibit mature behavior in relationships. They overcome their dissimilarities through bonding over similarities, to maintain harmony in their relation for their family and especially for kids. Such mature couple understands that breaking relation is not even one minute affair, but maintaining same consistently is the real challenge in life.

Marriage is not just a get-together of husband and wife. But it is a process of building home with family. Such couples who prioritize their family bonding over their individual identities, are seen in true love for each other. They just focus on raising kids keeping aside all their personal desires and issues.

God has made male-female pair, not only for sexual pleasure or reproduction purpose, but it has also put onus on them for survival of life. Nature has entrusted them with parental duty to raise their offspring with responsibility, such that life will continue to survive without disruption.

So, raising kids is not just a pecuniary responsibility, but also a social and ecological responsibility. Giving birth to children is easy but making them survive stably in life is tough. Giving good values to children must be the foremost duty of every parent. Otherwise, whole society will become sick.

Couples must understand that children’s world is beyond their material pleasures. They need parents, and not just guardians. They are curious about everything in nature. But if their constructive abilities are not harnessed, they will develop destructive instincts.

Hence as the children grow in age, parent needs to give special attention for nurturing responsible persona in them. Because this is the age, when they groom with feelings and understanding. They are highly responsive and absorbing to whatever parent injects in them. But what generally parents do in real life, is a different story.

Couples when come together, develop leanings towards each other. Initially for certain years, though they feel that they have feelings for each other, yet they tend to incline more physically. It is quite natural, owing to their tender age, they remain involve more intimately.

But with age, when most of females see downfall in their physical urge, male may encounter with exact opposite impulse. There is nothing wrong in this, because with age, both male and female undergoes lots of physical and psychological changes in them. They both tend to witness cavity, emptiness of life and fear of losing something.

So, to balance this urge, they both need time and attention of each other. But if they don’t get enough attention from partners, they tend to involve more in outside activities, may be social gatherings like clubs, parties or outings to keep themselves busy.

Actually, in this age couples must spend most of time with each other. They must go together on long holiday. They must watch movie together. They must play sports together. They must do shopping. Somehow, they must spend time with each other.

This is typically called ‘Nervous 45’ situation, which happens with most of the couple after completing 45 years of age. They tend to loose interest in each other, if they don’t get attention of each other. They both have to go through the real test of maturity in this age.

Yes. Age is the real culprit in most of the separations. Often most of the separating couples fails to recognise this. But eventually realize this with passage of time. They regret to have not given one more chance in their relationship. Realization often comes in life when all material urges are lost.

But why it happens in that age? Why does female behave strange, when male act impulsive? Why do both male and female go through physical and psychological changes in that particular age?

Well. There are lot of scientific research and studies done on this aspect under various branches of science. The most cognitive reason found by science behind this situation is body hormones and their capricious fluctuations. 

Typically, in this age, female cross her menopause phase. It is the natural cessation of her menstrual cycle which is the end of her fertility power. This may not be a smooth transition for her. Because she enters into a dormant phase of her body cycles, which were hitherto continuously into a long productive process through ovulation and menstrual cycles.

Naturally female goes through drastic hormonal changes causing lots of physical and psychological stress in her. Due to which she may lose physical interest or even sometime sexual interest in her partner. However she need utmost care and understanding in this phase. So naturally she seek unusual attention from her male partner.

To add to this, female take care of all home responsibilities including children. Hence, she remains under constant stress of work too. So, she needs physical and mental involvement of her partner at home.

And right at this stage, male expect her to satisfy his self-esteem needs. He seeks more physical involvement from her. He needs her undivided time and attention in his self-actualization journey, which becomes one of major reasons of conflicts in most couples.   

That is why it is said that – Age may evolve feelings in couples, but, not necessary maturity. However, some couples are of ‘made for each other’ types. It means, irrespective of any common cause for their relation or even without having children, they sense a strong bond with each other. They share great union of hearts. They do not blame each other for their weakness but they feel that they get complete by their unions. Usually. such tie-ups have great marriages. They are called Soulmates or spiritual companions.

On other hand, when I see people breaking up, I wonder what kind of relation is this? What such people achieve by breaking relation? Do they really become free to do whatever they want? What happens to their common dreams and causes? Were they real or fake? Just like their relation, which too may have based on some fake understanding about each other.

I really wonder as to why such couple do not recall their first visit? Why do they not remember their very reason of meet? What was that something that made them together? Why such couple do not think about their children? As to what will happens to them after their divorce? What will they feel? How will they cope up with the pressure of missing their parents together?

Why couple separating often ignore that they are the reason for their children? What right do they have to snatch life from their children? Do they feel that raising kids is god’s responsibility? Do they feel that children are machines in a factory which can be operated by employee?

I don’t know, what kind of bond such people share in their life? Are these people real or fake themselves? I get very emotional when I think about such family where children are made to suffer due the immature behaviour of their parents.

How come couple go to such an extreme step of separation and that too after living together for 27 long years? Are they really free now to do whatever they want? And even if they do that, what after that? what is next?

Anyway, divorce is the personal matter of each couple and no one should have any right to talk about same in general. But children are part of society. What will they carry in their life, when they see such examples? Will they trust in long relationships? Will they believe in staying as family?

Divorce in any family is a disaster. Children is middle class family do suffer financially because of division of resources. But in elite family, children do suffer more. Not because of loss of livelihood but due to loss their childhood. Which is far more dangerous than any financial sufferings. And, I hope separating couple would need to understand this before breaking up.

It is also said that quite often the reason behind rich divorces are far more commercial and economic. They may be purposeful division of assets either for ringfencing them from taxation or revenue enforcement or may be for wealth management.

And. it may be seen also that the amounts of such splits are mind-boggling in some of such billionaires’ divorces, where in spite of division, stock market has made insane reactions. Perhaps more in rising wealth of such couples.   

In one of prominent recent example high-profile divorce, the Mackenzie got about USD 35.8 Billions from her husband Jeff Bezos, by virtually splitting their joint 75% stake in Amazon. And both are growing in their wealth. Perhaps Melinda may get a large share in Bill’s total worth of USD 130 Billions and would becomes richest person in the world.

May their wealth keep growing with tides in the market. However, it should not so happen at the cost of losing childhood of their sweet children. May god give them second chance to rethink on their decision.

Men can choose any dress in just ten minutes in any shop. Whereas women take hours to decide about shop. Then they take hours for seeing and choosing something. They will often reject things at first glance. There may not be any defect or shortcomings in the things they see. But they will keep changing their mind. They will see emotional connect with the goods they are buying. They will keep wandering from shop to shop, till they do not get what they want.

At times, they end-up buying the same thing from the same first shop. Still, they will enjoy wandering all shops, like crazy butterflies. They will have an insatiable appetite for things they want to shop. Sometimes, it becomes so funny to see women leaving home with an intention to buy something and returning home with all things except that something.

It just happens with women. Men may feel it crazy or silly, but for women it is an usual behaviour. They just enjoy roaming, searching new things, comparing things, taking opinions, suggesting things to their friends, buying things for their family and even gifting things. Shopping for any of such needs, gives them insatiable pleasures. You will never see them boiling down the way men feels after shopping.

Men, on other hand, find it very tiring to visit shop after shops, though they like shopping. So, if any man wants to buy anything, he will finalise a store before visiting same, and then buy the products right there with minimal comparisons. But if he does not get what he needs, he will simply come out of store without buying anything. At the most he will go another store for searching same thing, but will never roam store after store, the way woman wanders.

Usually, it is seen in shopping malls that, men sitting outside the clothing store desperately waiting for their wives to come out, while their women loves to try dress after dress before deciding whether to buy it or not. Men gets bored of shopping within few minutes of entering into mall, while women do not show any signs of fatigue for many hours.

Men typically get restless and are seen searching opportunity to get out of the mall, when they go on shopping with their women. Hence jokingly it is said that if you want to punish any man, just send him on a shopping with his woman.

Also, it is seen that, unlike women, men are not so social in shopping. Men never prefer shopping in groups. Moreover, they do not like gatherings while shopping. At the most, it can be seen that, when any man needs some advice, perhaps he will go with just one or two friends to buy something. But he will never be comfortable taking mob with him for shopping.

Women literally enjoy when they gather at mall, visit store after store and chit-chat over various things and issues while shopping. Women get same pleasure the way men get from sports or adventures. If you ask women to visit historical sites, they may not come with zeal, but when you ask them to come for shopping, there will be an unusual excitement in them. That’s why, during the holiday season, you’re likely to see a lot of men cooling their butt on adventures, whereas women are seen immersed in shopping.

More amazing experience comes when you see them coming back from shopping with all their purchases. It will be almost like a feeling of conquering an expedition. They will be super excited to show you everything they purchased. And more exciting will be the story about how they found things and what happened when they bought them.

Why women are so crazy about shopping?

Why women love shopping, while men hate it?  Why women are like that? Why men are so apathetic about shopping? Why men feel bored, while women feel excited in shopping? Is it something related to their genetic structure? Or is it having root in their ancestral anatomy.

Interestingly there are various studies under anthropology and archaeology, which talks about hunting-gathering culture of primaeval human. In that era, when human settled their habitat in caves, the males went out to hunt animals while females gathered food mainly fruits, veggies and berries from the nearby forests.

Males used to travel long distance in search of animals. Their priority was to hunt animal quickly and get back to the safety of the settlement as fast as they could. This hurry is reflecting in their present shopping habits when they enter the shop, choose the product, make the payment and get out fast from shop.

Females, on other hand, were primary the store-keepers. Unlike males, they were not in such a tearing hurry. For them, searching food was also a social event where they bonded with other females of the tribe, inspecting every bush and tree with care and choosing the best quality of food available. They gathered whatever they received from male, as well as from other members of their tribe. Their priority was to preserve the gathered food, keep it fresh, cook it using fire and search new processes for same.

So, unlike men, women never travelled far and wide. But they frequently visited nearby habitats. Even if they didn’t know the directions, they navigated by knowing which tree patch was the most productive last season. They probably gathered food alongside other female members of the tribe. Thus, gathering, like today’s shopping, was probably a social event at that time, though, hunting remained primarily a solitary adventure for men.

In other words, the men developed an instinct to hunt prey and get out fast, whereas women got prepared to look around a little more, continuing the search for that special tree patch through gathering other women. May be, due to this, hundreds of thousands of years of conditioning, made men and women behave different the way they are today.

Thus, we see men rush, while women get immersed into shopping. Modern women use same skills dating back to their days as gatherers while on shopping expeditions. That’s how a lot of women still shop, comparing products, looking at alternatives and exchanging notes with friends and colleagues. But men really are still on the hunt, not so excited to wander. They just hunt and come back, like primaeval hunters.

The hunter had to keep quiet, such that his prey should not get alerted. So hunting was rarely a social event. And. men never roamed in mobs. However, women gatherers, had no such restrictions as they foraged for food and exchanged primeval gossip. Probably that could be one of reason due to which men like to shop alone, while women prefer to go out with other women. Quite naturally women developed deep instincts for shopping and gossiping through this genetic conditioning.

Moreover, females are bestowed with the divine blessing of motherhood, which naturally brings maturity and sense of responsibility in women. They are emotionally attached to both their children and family. In this caregiving role, women find themselves buying on behalf of everyone else in their lives in addition to buying for themselves.

They not just love to buy things for others, but they do think deep for each and every aspect about their near and dear ones, including their looks, habits and health. Even while gifting things, women do think a lot, in terms of what to give, how to give, how to wrap, what to write and how to ship, etc. They make sure that such gifts are delivered in the hand of right person on time.

So, naturally females enjoy shopping more than males do. But there is no evidence to prove that women do shop more than men. Women may do shopping for pleasure. At some point it may be possible that impulsive shopping becomes addictive. But there is no data that women do obsessive shopping.

Women do shop more when they get high on emotions, whether they are up or down. Positive emotions like feeling good can boost them to shop. Likewise negative emotions like depression or feeling low can trigger an urge to go on a spending spree. They sometimes shop out of boredom or to keep themselves occupied of something.

Shopping compensates their feeling of missing or lacking something in their lives. Women admits that they shop to cheer themselves up, usually to provide momentary pleasure. But when they spend money, they didn’t have, for treating or impressing others, they regret also for long time.

Therefore, genetic conditioning cannot be the sole reason behind women shopping behaviours. Perhaps hormones may be playing nasty roles behind this. And, it is now proved that hormones do triggers emotions in human being and more or less it affects everyone. But particularly, it is seen that hormones im-balancing can cause mood swings, increased irritability and impulsivity in women.

Typically, women exhibit drastic changes in their behaviour, in their luteal phase than in their follicular phase. Probably this could be the reason in women for feeling out of control, spending more money, unplanned spending or purchasing of items on impulse.

In today’s world, however, women may be shopping for pleasure, emotions, passion, love, compassion or out of compulsion, but one cannot deny their role in supporting commerce and creating job opportunities worldwide.

Women do have a multiplier effect on business, because they don’t just buy for themselves but buy on behalf of so many other people. Their purchasing decisions often influence more potential customers. And they endorse brands, products and shopping by word of mouth, which is as effective as advertisements.

No matter how fast the world changes or technology advances, women are going to be the top shoppers of the world always. One cannot just imagine shopping without women.

Woman is a puzzle, which is very difficult to understand. She is charisma of nature. Her mind is such a complex chemical, that no man can easily solve its equation. One cannot simply read her mind.

She is like an Ocean. Calm and peaceful, yet turbulent. She will have deep understanding and yet shallow reactions. She will be close to you, yet reserved. She can be both soft-spoken and out-spoken at the same time.

You can have lots of conversations about anything and everything with her. But you cannot doubt her principles. You cannot question her beliefs. Because, the moment you do that there are chances that you may go in her bad books.

She is literally unpredictable. Yet amazing and captivating. Hence sometimes jokingly it is said that even God failed to know Eve.

A woman is still a mystery and a man cannot just understand her. Though some men on this planet are seen successful in learning their women. And. the World has seen that behind every successful man there is some woman. No matter whether she is his mother or wife or someone else.

It is therefore, said that a man is simply nothing without a woman. She is the one who gives birth to man. She is the one who nurtures him. She is the one who plays mischief as his sister. She is the one who completes him as a life partner. She is the one who gives meaning to his life as his daughter.

Thus, women come in various forms in men’s life. Yet. men fail to understand them fully. Men fail to recognise that women cannot dance.

Now. Why do I say that?. Why women cannot dance to men’s tune. and How can I dare to say that, when both man and woman are created by the same nature. Both are showered with similar yet incredible power of intelligence. They both are needed by nature to maintain the ecological balance.

Rather, I would say that they both are necessary to uphold the energy flows in universe. Still, you will find that, women are different in physical, mental and emotional characteristics than men. They are quite unique from men in various ways. They just cannot dance to men’s tune.

#Women have different shades of emotions

When men fail to gauge these realities, they end-up creating messy relationship with women. Man seeks earthy needs in woman, while woman search paradise in man.

The most common problem perceived between men and women, while dealing with others, is that, women exhibit different shades of emotions, whereas men’s behaviour remain more or less, unchanged.  

Men perceive that, woman behave strange in different roles, as a mother, sister, wife or girlfriend. When she is a mother or sister, she will be kind, loving and protecting. But when she is in a role of wife, she becomes caring, possessive and irritating sometimes. As a girlfriend, she will be seen soft and accommodating. But. When she is unknown to you, she will be yet different.

#Women have varied wavelengths

When mother talks to you as a son, she showers you with divine love. But when she talks to you as a husband of her daughter-in-law, she become whimsical. Similarly, when women talk to you as your wife, she expresses her bond with you, but when she talks to you as a son of your mother, she hates you.

You will see her mood and temperament changing faster than your speed of thinking. And you will have to always be prepared for adjusting yourself in her universe.

Moreover, it is very difficult to generalise women because different men may get different experiences. Yet surprisingly when man-women come together as a couple or spouse, men usually notice certain things.

It is not that men are always right or women are always wrong. But, at times men fail to understand women from their external behaviours. Women too wants to say something, but express something else from their emotions.

But why do they do that? Is there any deep mysterious phenomena behind that?. Men needs to analyse that for each of their perceptions about women. And this will very interesting to know, because you will find that most of the men’s perceptions about women are only one-sided. and women’s side is completly ignored. but when you see this from women’s angle, you will notice that whatever she does, she does for you only. 

#Men can keep secrets with them

Men generally do not share confidential things. Whereas women cannot hide secrets with them for a long time. They burst up to their confidant and even while sharing the secret, they will insist that “see this a very confidential thing, and you are the only person whom I am sharing this, because I trust you very much. Please do not share this with anyone. I swear you”.

And with these swearing statements they will share this secret with every friend, only to make that secret an open secret, which everyone knows now, but swear not to share with others. Naturally if this way a secret is shared by women with women, it never remains to be a secret.

#Men prefer a peace

Men generally ignores small issues and gossiping. They choose to be dumb, rather inviting controversies. On other hand women boils each and every issue. They like to get immersed in gossiping about it in their neighbourhood or with their friends.

Women easily tend to spread rumours, because they just chatter without even verifying the underlying facts, whereas men generally do not involve into such activities unless they have some purpose. Men prefer to stay quiet in issues, as if they try to avoid unnecessary troubles.

Men perceive this as weakness of women. However women never does this with any intentions. It happens in them, due to their natural instinct of responding to thoughts, which is not there in men.

Women are highly intuitive and inquisitive in nature. By default they are fertile for incubation of energy. They not only absorb the thoughts but also enable pollination and fertilization of thoughts. In a way they help in spreading energy through thoughts.    

# Why men hide things from women

Men can easily forgive others and quickly forget things. Whereas women may forgive, but never forget things. They always remember them. They have gift of strong memory. And they can remember things from their childhood, even till the time they get old.

It is easy to make man forget everything. But it is very painful to bring a woman out of her memories. Equally it is difficult to divert her attention from recalling any past moments. The moment they remember any such incident they ruminate it till the time they do not get fully exhaust. Naturally if such incidents are bad, they suffer heavily due to emotional spillovers. It not only disturbs them, but also affects the people around them.

Hence wise men always take care not to share certain things, whether good or bad, with women. It is not intentional, but in good faith, for the peace at home, some men hide things from women.

At times, man does this, because he loves his woman and feel concerned about her. He does not wish her woman get suffer emotionally due to overthinking about such things. So, he load his heart himself and carry this guilt lifetime, to maintain peace and order at home.

#Men never get down by envy or jealousy.

Men get comfortable seeing others doing well in their life. They never get down by feelings of envy or jealousy. Nonetheless, they love to celebrate such occasions with their friends.

Women on other hand, can get jealous easily if they see others doing well, particularly their friends. More commonly they get envious with the well-beings of their in-laws. This leads them into unnecessary comparisons, criticism and blame games.

Sometimes this makes them so restless in their life, that they get depressed also. It develops wrong habits like over-eating, nail-biting, excessive watching television, obsessive mobile browsing in them. Most of the women put on weight or attract diseases like sugar, blood pressure or nervousness, because of anxieties or depression caused due to overthinking and galloping. Men too fail victim to their whimsical behaviours.

#Woman can stare, but man cannot

When woman stare at man, she would expect people call it a sweet glance, but when man stare at woman, she will call it an eve teasing.

Man generally never get jealous or react if his woman is staring or talking to other man. But woman can easily get jealous and sometime get angry also if she finds her man staring or talking to another woman.

At times, she may get offensive also when she sees that her man is ignoring her signals.

#Man’s Philosophy do not work on Woman 

Woman will not have any problem if any of her friend or maternal relative gets immersed into smoking, drinking or partying. But she will see it a problem when she finds her own man or any in-laws doing same.

She will have lots of preaching to offer to justify defects of her maternal relatives, but man’s philosophy will not work on her when she find him at fault.

# Men make synthetic relation

Men can easily trust others. No matter whether other person is man or woman. They generally never doubt or break their trust without any solid strong reason. They remain tactful in handling or responding others. Hence, they never hurt others by their words or behaviours. Therefore, men tend to maintain long term relationship with anyone, whether men or women.

But women generally never do that. They take time before putting trust on anyone. They keep doubting even for a small reason. Their trust pendulum keeps roaming. In communication also, women remain clearer and straight-forward, which may sometimes feel like their arrogance or rude behaviour. Due to which sometimes people get confused or hurt due to the misunderstandings.

But unlike men, women will never be synthetic, to maintain relation. They remain crystal clear in their attitude, whether or not the relation survives. For them it is just make or break, but never tweak. In this attribute, they represent cosmic purity of divine nature. May be god has made them like that to maintain the chastity of holy nature.

#Women are capable of hearing in between the lines

Men generally understand only one meaning from one sentence, whereas women have ability to interpret more than one meaning from same sentence. In case of confusion, men do not overreact or create chaos. But they will try to clear the confusions.

However, it is not so with women. They can quickly guess all possible meanings from the sentence. Not only that, they can understand the hidden message also in the sentenses. Their capability of hearing in between the lines, makes them competent to handle investigations jobs.

Literally sometimes women get into detective roles, because of the confusing statements made by men. Hence, men need to be very careful while speaking with women, because even a slightest slang or distortion in words can cause big misinterpretation in women. And removing their misunderstanding is a herculean task, which only wise man can handle with comfort.

But most other men need to go through hell in their pursuit to convince women that they are not wrong. Moreover, this skill works in women’s favour sometimes, when they catch their men red handed from contradictory statements.

#Men escape problems, where women kiss them

When in trouble men prefer to be quiet or lie down. When they see any problem, they keep it to themselves and try to work on it till it gets resolved. They will not make any dispute out of it.  

At the most they will divert their attention to friends, sports, movies or some habit like smoking, drinking or sex, which allows them a temporary escape from this stress and relax. Thereby allowing them to re-examine the problem later from fresh perspective.

On other hand, when women get into any trouble, they call people, they talk, they scold, they cry and they lose their mental peace and also disturb everybody around them.

When women see any problem, you will see them making endless arguments as if they are not necessarily interested in solving those issues, but mainly want to debate about them. And they will make sure that they create hell for everybody till they solve it or dump it or accept the blame even they are not responsible for this problem.

Women does not realise this. But when they come under stress, their natural reaction is to talk with someone close, about the problem, even they know that they are not going to get any solution from this chit-chat.  

This becomes a major source of conflict between men and women, because they both have different ways of handling problems. While man try to withdraw from problem, woman kiss them. Man follows an approach of detaching, but woman walks on approach of embracing.

#Women never run away from duties

Though women are not physically strong as men, but they are emotionally stronger than men. When they fall into any problem, they have ability to take control of any worst situations in a sensible manner. That is why it is said that a woman is like a tea bag; she never knows her true strength until she is put in hot water.

It is seen that, when a wife in a family dies, husband can easily do a second marriage. May be because he finds it difficult to take care of his children. Or perhaps he cannot just handle his duties and need someone to share his burden. Or maybe he just wants to get rid of his responsibilities.

Well. Not all men would do this or run away from their duties like this. But most of them do. Still, there are some kind hearted men also on this planet, who remain widower forever for the love of their children.

#Women are sensitive and understanding

Women, however acts very sensitive and understanding under such circumstances. Therefore, it is seen that, when husband in a family dies, wife generally do not do second marriage. Instead, she focuses on children and family. That is why it is said that women are more devoted in relationship than men, because they dedicate 100% in their relationship.

For woman her man, her children and her family become her life. Her top most priority. She can sacrifice her feelings, dreams, desires, her needs, virtually everything for her children and her family.

While man give top priority to his career, passion and identity, she remains attached to children and her family. It is therefore said that girls mature faster than boys. They develop a stronger sense of belongings, patience and tolerance which enables them to take charge of any circumstances in life with great perseverance.

They never give-up on children and family. By default, nature has made them caring, nurturing and accommodative. They are gifted with motherhood, which itself is a celestial blessing. Women are supreme form of divinity and they are worshipped in various civilisation in some or other form of goddess.

#Women are warriors

Woman is charming, delicate and yet powerful. When it comes to protection of her children, she becomes warrior. When her children are hungry, her heart melts. She will starve herself, but ensure that her children are feed properly.

She will never keep things to herself, but share same with her children. She will ensure that her children are getting nurtured properly in all aspects of life.

She is not only a feeder of food, but also a feeder of thoughts for man in his early days. Infact, she is the first teacher for every one of us in our life in the form of mother. Hence, there is proverb that if you educate a man, you educate one person, but when you educate a woman, you educate a society.

And. the fastest way to change any society is to empower the women.

#Women seeks undivided devotion and loyalty 

Women are central force of energy. When she feels full of energy and love, she is stable. But when she gives of herself, and doesn’t receive adequate love and attention in return, she becomes unbalanced, exploding and eventually crashing.

Then, she needs immediate attention, listening, understanding, acknowledgment and appreciation. Something which express your love and dedication for her. She instantly gets rejuvenated by this support and her energy starts flowing again.

Man must understand this natural cycle by not being jumbled by it or telling her why she should not feel the way other woman feels. Instead, he must devote himself fully to his woman and must give undivided attention to her, which is the only way to keep her balanced.  

#It is easy to win her heart.

It is believed that a women has been brought into existence by nature to complete the men. However, they are just opposite to men, as if they are made to complement each other and maintain the ecological balance in nature.

Afterall, we human beings are one form of energy, which manifest its existence through our actions of survival and reproduction. Infact, all living creatures survive only for reproduction, because it is one form of energy transformation in them.

So both man and woman are necessary on this planet for survival of human race. Some men however does not recognise this. They try to see woman from their own perspective. They see her beauty from physique or appearance. They think that women are object for earthy pleasures.

They try to win them. They feel that women are like them and have similar feelings like them. They spend time in understanding them. But when men do not get what they desire, some of them give up. But some other being fierce and try to dominate, suppress or exploit their women, in order to cotrol them.

Hardly they know that women are made to be loved and not understood. For a man, woman may come as his wife for some time but she remains a mother in eternity.

#Woman need space.

One can never understand a woman completely, but it is very easy to win her heart by making her feel important. Woman need space. A dedicated reserved place in man’s heart. She does not like intermingling of her place with others. She can not bear interfearance in her space from anyone.

Most obvious conflicts happen in sharing time with wife and mother. Man needs to understand this carefully, while giving time, attention and appreciation to both of them. He needs to learn to manage his time and priorities, such that none of them get hurt by him inadvertently. If their space is maintained properly, life becomes peaceful and beautiful. 

When man take one step in providing enough space to his ladies, they take hundred steps in return to take care of his needs. Woman just needs love, compassion and devotion from man. She wants her man should remain with her forever. She sees universe in her man.

#Women just cannot dance to nature’s tune

We human beings are given an incredible power of intelligence. Soul is an energy flowing inside us, which keep us charging. Like a multi-layered atmosphere around the earth, we human beings have multi-layered abilities around our intelligence.

That is why. we are creative in nature and we recognise ideas, feelings and beliefs, which are just outcomes of our thoughts. Like a waterfall, we keep getting tons of thoughts through our Soul, falling on us in cascades.

At times. to avoid this bombarding, we human being tends to involve into some activities which gives us instant escape. And. this may be some reading, game, music, movie, sport or even sometimes sex. It may give us temporary relief and pleasure in that particular short time. But. Not permanently. Because energy keeps flowing in us.

And. as it gets restored again, we tend to come under same stress again.  So. It becomes a vicious circle. And. such people, who do not understand this nature’s miracle, gets addicted to wrong habits. Like. Smoking. Drinking. Drugs. Or even sex. They do not realise that these addictions are not long-term solutions to cope with this energy eruptions. So. They end up spoiling their life into wrong habits.

But when any person works on creation of anything, he gets a pleasure far superior than any other pleasure. And. at times such creative people are seen engrossed in something and forgetting every other thing in their life.

Now. all it happens silently without we even knowing it. Our soul starts working on something. It prompts us to explore something new. It tries to create something new. It suggests us some novel ideas. It takes us into supernatural world through our imagination.

And. for that matter. Every soul on this earth invariably tries to do this with every one of us. but. Very few genius people recognise this nature’s call. And. that is why this handful of people gets something extra-ordinary in their life.

Whereas, most of us live simple life. Because, we get scared when we confront such unusual unseen things. Our logical mind creates limitations. We overthink and creates hurdles for ourselves. We fail to recognise our Souls vision. We ignore our souls’ whispers.

Thus. It is said that. soul is a place where all logic ends and creativity begins. When you are aligned to your soul neither negativity can disturb you. nor positivity can spoil you.

Because. you live in a blissful state of mind with your Soul. Your creativity starts exploding when you follow your soul. And. your energy gets focussed on more productive purposes. Thereby placing you in higher authoritative orbit.

You start speaking from the bottom of your heart. Your Soul takes charge to speak for you. And. When your Soul speaks whole World listens. People start following you. They imitate you. You get fascinated by this. You fail to this temptation.

This is an immersive state, where person forgets every other thing. Here one needs to be completely submissive to his soul. Most of the men, who prefer to live like free birds, surrender before their soul. They overcome their fear about mundane duties.

Rather men just renounce their callings by moving away from family obligations. Women, however can not even think about giving up on responsibilities like this, primarily because, they are gifted with blessing of motherhood.

By default, women are bestowed with power of nurturing and survival. Being female, woman follow natures order of raising kids, nurturing them and ensuring their survivals. Though her souls keep promoting her to do many things, she keeps her kids as her top most priority.

She also boils through the same stressses like man, but she generally never succumbs to such pressures. Because she never gives up on her responsibilities to make her live her soul.

In life’s stage, where man gracefully dance to the nature’s tune in his pursuit of walking his soul, woman prefer to manage backstage. She supports her men, in his journey and stay focussed on her family.

In this process, sometime some women, do lots of sacrifice and compromises with their dreams, desires and passions. It is not that women are not ambitious in their life. But they set family as their top ambition.

Women are good dancers. They too wish to dance on their Soul. But they do not want their home to get disturbed by this. Hence women cannot dance to the tune of nature, the way men do!

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By Core I mean ‘Inner Core Skill’ of any Individual. As we all know that every person is born unique with certain talent specific to him, there lies certain situation that also apply to such individual.

Nature is so kind and helpful

The nature is so kind and helpful that, when it throws challenges before us, it also showers tons of opportunities to sail over these challenges. Nature keep prompting us in our ear about some talent through some or other way.

This one skill, if nurtured, gives us happiness easily. We get filled with sense of satisfaction. Working on such skill makes our journey beautiful. We get strength to bear whatever pains we go through. This talent builds competence in us that create earning potential. 

We  get feeling of oneness and submerged into our Soul by working on this one talent. We feel as if we are made for this skill and this is the Sole Purpose of our life.

However, there are lots of people who still struggle in their life because they fail to understand their Inner Core Skill. They run after money rather that building their Core Competency. So they get trapped in a rat race and eventually end up becoming unhappy in their life.

They keep chasing others with short term goals and always gets distracted by what other are doing. They get stressed because of fear of missing out something. But they do not exactly know what is that something. They keep following others without any central direction or satisfaction. They lose their purpose of life and realise this only at the end of their life.

On the other hand, the person who knows his Inner Core Skill, never gets distracted by any such temptations. He never feels attraction for short terms goals. He never get stressed beacuse of fear of missing out anything. Such person becomes naturally stable and comfortable with any situation because of his core competence that builds confidence in him. This person knows what exactly he has to do in his life.

So. If you need peace and stability in your life, then you must find out what is your Inner Core Skill, which gives you your real Happiness. We urge you to take a break from your life to give enough time to your Self and think deep on your Inner Core. You must work on building your Core Competence and then start working in small steps with a complete sense of joy and fulfilness. This will give you complete bliss, which will never vanish, because you are working on your Core. You are working on your Soul.

Why must you listen to your Soul?

This was a long kept Secret, which hardly understood by people, though our ancestors kept telling us this through their various says and verses. And even some of the ancient scriptures also had a mention on this. However, we human being misinterpreted this as a Selfish message, though it was a pure Self-less act of god. 

Surprisingly, ‘Love Yourself’ was not only a Secret Message to the Humanity, but it was a Signal of Life on this specious Planet to the universe. It gave us indication for recognising the Power of Self and connect to the Supreme Intelligence by decoding the mysterious order of Nature carefully and subtly.

Life has given default ability to each one of us, through which we can endevour to explore our True Self and achieve the things we desire in our Life. There is an ‘Art’ and ‘Process’ involved in this discovery, which comes into order spontanously through our Soul, when we start loving our Self. So. once you start working on this, you will realise effect of this process.

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How it will help you?

Your universe is just a reflection of your thoughts and beliefs. Your beliefs in yourself strengthens others belief in you. As you start expressing love your yourself, your Soul starts remitting love signal to Universe. You start attracting love waves from all across the universe. You start seeing energy, positivity and love everywhere. This will be like a mirroring of what you are seeing inside you.

To understand this phenomena, you can observe any Child who is asking something from his Parents. You will feel a pure self-less innocent Soul in him, who asks something at one time and if he is denied same, either he cries out for it or just forget same and divert himself to something else. Now while doing all this you must see the expression on his face, you will find that he will not have any hard feelings for things as well as no repentance for denails also.

You will see that whatever is coming from him, it purely cosmic and natural. No hatred. No revenge. But pure leaning and belonging. And may be because of this perhaps most of the time, child gets what he demands. Because universe arrange his wish through us.

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You also just need to do this for getting your things. you just need to wake up this Child inside you. Because, as you start dispensing positive energy like this Child, you get synchronized efforts from the Supreme Energy and it brings back energy in abundance to you. Remember what goes around comes around. You will start receiving what all you started giving.

Why it will help you?

It is only because you have changed and started loving yourself. The Supreme Soul residing in you, who is the power house, recognise same and starts guiding you.

It is the universal truth that you get what you give. As you sow, so you ripe. If you pay respect to someone, you get respect in back. Your Smile to other, brings back tons of Smile to you. Similarly as you start loving yourself which is your Soul inside, you will be getting back love in abundance from your Soul.

And ‘Love Yourself’ is a first step when you start getting connected to your Core.

Why must you connect to your Core?

Please do check out my video series “When My Soul Says Yes!” where I have created some immersive videos to answer various questions, every week. Click to know more

Every Person is Unique in this World

Every Person is a Unique Soul in this World. Every Soul has tremendous Potential of creating something New. We human beings are blessed with a rare quality of Imagination.

Every innovation like Machines, Aeroplanes, Computers or Mobiles have come into reality through Creative Imagination Power of someone. That is why it is said that ‘Everything is Born Twice in this World’ i.e. once in the imagination of Creator who visualize it being real and second time in the execution by people who work on it following the Creator.

So being blessed with such a magnificent power, you start attract everything that you imagine. But you must believe in yourself. Because this power acts like a magnet only when your belief supports your imagination. It is said that ‘We Become What We Think and Believe’. If you think and believe in positive terms, you will get positive results only.

If you believe in yourself, then only others will believe in you. If you don’t believe in yourself, nobody else will believe in you. You are the only action originator and energy remitter. The world is just reflection of your thoughts and beliefs.

Send positive signals, you will get positive results and vice versa. What goes around comes around. Similarly nobody else will love you, if you don’t love to yourself. You must remit love signals. You must Love yourself to get love from Universe.

Why it is a Secret ?

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